The ABCs For a Fulfilling Marriage
Updated: Aug 15, 2022
A child’s knowledge of names and shapes of letters is a strong predictor of their success in learning to read; therefore, learning the ABCs is fundamental. The same is true of most things in life. The foundation we build upon is essential for strength, stability, and longevity. Based on my 30+ years of experience, the following principles, mainly derived from scripture, are fundamentals for building a strong foundation.
Some of these ABCs For a Fulfilling Marriage will be reminders while others will be a new revelation. Just remember that Christ came and sacrificed His life so that we would have abundant life (John 10:10) and that includes abundance in our marriages.
A - Agreement in our marriage is powerful. The gifts, talents, and skills of our combined effort are greater than the sum of our individual endeavors. (Genesis 2:18)
B - Be open to change. Flexibility can often lead to individual growth which enhances our relationships. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
C - Conflict is inevitable and unavoidable. Learn to resolve it lovingly. (Ephesians 4:32)
D - Different isn't wrong or better. It's just different and God knew what He was doing when He formed you that way. (Jeremiah 1:5)
E - Expectations change over time. Don't be surprised if last year's preferences have shifted as our minds are being transformed. (Romans 12:2)
F - Forgive often. 77 x 7 and then some. (Matthew 18:21 -22)
G - God and His principles come first. They will guide you in relating more fully to your spouse. (Matthew 6:33)
H - Hone in and practice good relationship skills. Practice doesn't make perfect, it makes permanent. (Matthew 7:12)
I - Intimacy comes in four forms - physical, sexual, emotional, and spiritual. Understand and develop them all so that your marriage can thrive. (Song of Solomon 1:1 – 8:14)
J - Just say no to electronic devices in your bed. The marital bed was intended for much more pleasurable things! (Hebrews 13:4)
K - Keep your focus on moving forward. The past is for learning not living. (Isaiah 43:18)
L - Learn your spouse's love language. It's a key to effective communication. (Hebrews 10:24, I Thessalonians 5:11)
M - Marriage is a marathon. Endurance comes when we intentionally run the race together. (Galatians 6:9)
N - Never allow parents and family into the most intimate areas of your marriage. Remember God's instruction for us to leave and cleave. (Genesis 2:24)
O - Oneness can't be achieved when unforgiveness resides in your heart. Set yourself free from the offenses and any residue of resentment. (Matthew 6:12 AMP)
P - Pray together often. It's one of the best ways to start your day. (I Thessalonians 5:17)
Q - Quick to listen, slow to speak. Consider using your two ears and one mouth proportionately. (James 1:19-20)
R - Resist the desire to get even and keep score. Be mindful that your scorecard might be inaccurate. (I Corinthians 13:4-5 NIV)
S - Submit one to another. The Bible teaches that submission is a two-way street.
T - There's no reward in 50/50 performance. Strive for 100% commitment and sacrifice from both spouses. (Colossians 3:17)
U - Understanding paves the way for resolution. Listening for understanding is the first step towards agreement. (Proverbs 18:2 NLT)
V - Voice your opinions and concerns with humility and kindness. A soft answer turns away wrath. (Proverbs 15:1)
W – Worship and serve together as a couple with other Believers. Those experiences can increase your spiritual intimacy. (Matthew 18: 20)
X - X-tra attention must be given to keeping the fires burning. Continue to “date your mate”. (Song of Solomon 4:16 – 5:1)
Y - Your spouse comes before your children, family, friends, job, and even ministry.
(Deuteronomy 6:5, Ephesians 5:21-22, Ephesians 6:4, Deuteronomy 5:16, Hebrews 10:25, Matthew 28:19)
Z - Zero in on your spouse's needs, desires and expectations and do your best to support them. We are in this covenant until death do us part. (Mark 10:9)
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